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Losing Your Expectations: The Secret To A Happier Life

We all have expectations in our lives, whether we are aware of them or not. We know where we want to be in life, who we want to be with, how we should be treated, even what our next meal should taste like. And these are all expectations.

An expectation is a preconceived notion of how things should be. We expect that things will be just as we have imagined them to be, but very often, people and situations fail to live up to our expectations. And that’s where the problems arise.

We have all been let down in the past by someone or something that has not turned out to be as good or as perfect as we imagined them to be. How did that make us feel?

Upset. Disappointed. Disillusioned. Unhappy.

By expecting things to happen in the way we want or imagine them to, we are setting ourselves up for a fall. Having expectations about how our desires should manifest will only create negative feelings when these expectations are not met.

“So I should lower my expectations instead?”

Absolutely not!

Having high expectations will understandably invite disappointment as people or circumstances consistently fail to live up to them.

Having low expectations, however, will create a very negative way of thinking, and this in turn stunts our happiness.

By expecting everything to go badly or not happen at all, we are narrowing our outlook on life and making everything seem like it, well, sucks.

Yes, there will be occasions where your low expectations are surpassed, and for a while this will give you happiness. But when so many things meet your low expectations, it will just reinforce your conclusion that life is basically sh*t. And eventually, this will cause unhappiness.

“So, I shouldn’t have high expectations and I shouldn’t have low expectations – what should I have?”


Yes, that’s right. NO expectations. Let them go. Let the universe shape your life for you.

You can’t control the way people act, think or feel, and you can’t guarantee the outcome of a situation just because you have expected it to be so. Basing your happiness on outside influences will eventually lead you to anger and misery, as well as frustration at a life that isn’t going as you planned.

Go with the flow. Experience life a moment at a time. Enter into situations with an open mind, and let whatever happens unfold. Remain confident and positive and ready to accept life as it is rather than how you expect it to be. You will be amazed at how much happier you feel.

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The Path To Happiness

“Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.”

– Marcus Aurelius

Happiness: we all want it. We crave it in our lives, and work hard to achieve a happier future. But very often it eludes us. Why is that?

I love the above quote by the Roman emperor Marcus Aurelius. It describes our path to happiness in the simplest of ways. And in fact, that is what happiness actually is – very simple. The problem is, we insist on making it more difficult than it is.

These days, people frequently attach their happiness to another person or a goal or possession. It is seen as something to strive for, which is no bad thing. But when our happiness depends on it, this isn’t so good. If I could buy that new car, then it would make me so happy. If so-and-so agreed to go out with me, then my life would be complete. Too easily, we relinquish control of our own happiness and allow other people or things to dictate the path our life will take.

Stop that!

This is the quickest way to unhappiness. Believe me – I have been there.

Striving towards an illusion of happiness is not guaranteed to bring you happiness. I’m not saying it won’t bring you happiness, but this can never be guaranteed. By expecting this to happen, you are setting yourself up for a fall. Because, and I’m not saying that it definitely won’t happen, but what if it doesn’t?

Does that mean you can’t be happy?

Happiness should never be based on outside influences. Yes, people or things can certainly provide you with a level of happiness, but true happiness must come from within.

First and foremost, you must be happy with yourself. And the only way we can truly be happy with ourselves is to believe it.

When Marcus Aurelius said that happiness comes from within, in your way of thinking, he was right.

Yes, it’s that simple. Believe that you are happy, and you will be.

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Welcome To Your Happier Life

My name is Jo and I am the founder of A Happier Life For You life coaching.

I began my journey to happiness many years ago, when I decided my lifestyle and my mindset had to change. For so many of my younger years, I went through life with a negative outlook and suffered deeply from clinical depression.

It was only after a few years on anti-depressants that I realised life didn’t have to continue in this vein, and only I had the ability to change it. And so began my gradual journey to recovery, and to reclaiming my happiness.

I won’t lie; this wasn’t a quick process. I had my dark moments along the way, and periods of terrible unhappiness that I struggled to escape from. Eventually, however, I began to notice a pattern emerging, and it gave me something to work with.

As a highly intuitive empath, I have struggled over the years with my own moods as well as my ability to act as an ’emotional sponge’, meaning I become deeply affected by the atmosphere and the people around me. Knowing how to harness this has been the hard part, but I was aware that things had to change for my own well-being.

Going through such a major spiritual awakening has inspired me to help others find their happiness, and to heal from emotional suffering. Learning how to understand and positively channel my own emotions has helped me to become a happier and healthier person, and this is something I want to share.

I am hoping that my own journey will inspire others to embrace a different frame of mind and find their own way forward to a better, less stressful life.

Happiness is within us all. We just need to develop our ability to think positively.